When my boots gave out during one of the harshest winters in years, I thought my husband, Greg, would step up and buy me new ones. Instead, he prioritized a gift for his mom over my basic needs. But I wasn’t going to take his disrespect sitting down…and both he and his mother were in for a surprise.
Becoming a stay-at-home mother had been my dream since I was a little girl, and I never changed my mind, despite how different my female friends and family envisioned their lives.
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When I met Greg, who loved the idea of a housewife, I thought we were perfect for each other. But it wouldn’t take long before I realized why women had fought to become at least a little more independent.
It all happened during the worst winter our town in Michigan had seen in years. I was 34, and I was happy with my life. I took care of the house and our two kids and I tended to my husband. Greg had a fantastic job in tech that more than paid for our lifestyle. All this to say that we were never struggling with one income. We were more than privileged.
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Anyway, this winter hit harder than usual and after years of serious use, my boots were in bad shape. The soles had cracked, which caused icy water to leak inside with every step.
I tried my best to find solutions, like using double socks. But it was fruitless. I also tried to ignore the problem, but my feet were freezing most of the time.
Old, worn winter boots | Source: Gemini
One day, I took our kids, Caleb (6) and Lily (4) to the park, but it was much too cold for any real enjoyment. We hadn’t been out that long when my feet started protesting.
So, I decided enough was enough. It was time to get new boots. That night, I approached Greg while he was scrolling through his phone.
“Hey, honey,” I said, keeping my tone light. “I need new boots. My old ones are done for. Look at this.” I held up the sad excuse for boots.
A woman holding worn winter boots | Source: Gemini
Greg glanced up, unimpressed. “Can’t it wait until after Christmas? My mom needs a microwave, and it’s not cheap.”
I frowned. “A microwave? That’s a little random. Honey, my boots are falling apart, and the forecast says snow will only get worse. I can’t even walk outside without my feet getting soaked. I really need new ones.”
“You’re exaggerating,” he said, shaking his head.
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I laughed humorlessly. “I’m really not. We can easily afford the microwave and the boots, right?”
“I already said no, Lauren. And… I decide how MY money is spent,” Greg snapped, looking at me with raised eyebrows before staring back down at his phone.
His money.
Those words hit me harder than any icy wind ever could. I wasn’t asking for diamonds. I was asking for basic winter boots to, you know, avoid freezing. Good boots could be expensive, but they were an investment in the future.
New boots in a store | Source: Gemini
However, his mom’s new microwave came first, and it was the only thing he wanted to buy. I had no words for my husband that night, so I just went to sleep.
The next morning, as I walked Caleb to school, I nearly slipped on a patch of ice. He looked up at me and back down at my feet, concerned.
“Mommy, your shoes are broken. Why don’t you get new ones?” he asked.
His question broke me, but I forced a tight smile. “Because Daddy said no,” I replied, trying not to choke.
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Caleb frowned. “But your feet are cold. Doesn’t Daddy know?”
“Honey, let’s talk about this later. You’ll be late,” I said, gently ushering him toward his preschool. He forgot his question as soon as he saw his friends and ran inside.
I waved him away and turned quickly, so he wouldn’t see me breaking down. Even my son cared more than my husband.
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***
Christmas was just around the corner, and Greg was going on and on about the microwave he’d bought for his mom. “Top of the line. Smart. Connects to the internet,” he’d bragged. “She’s going to love it.”
That’s when it hit me: if Greg wanted to prioritize his mom’s microwave over my boots, maybe he needed a little reality check.
While he was at work and the kids were at my mom’s for the weekend, I made my move. I carefully unpacked the microwave, placed my worn-out boots in its box, and wrapped it back up in the same shiny paper Greg had used. I even added a glittery bow for effect.
A pair of winter boots in a box | Source: Gemini
***
Christmas morning arrived, and Greg’s mom, Sharon, made her grand entrance at our house, draped in her fur coat and reeking of Chanel No. 5.
Her presence was a tradition she and Greg had started when we moved into our house. Sharon preferred a private gift exchange before the big Christmas dinner at her much bigger home later that night.
I always suspected it might be because she wanted to give Greg time to find her something else if she didn’t like his original choice. But I could never prove it.
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Anyway, as soon as they sat on the couch, he handed her the big box with a proud smile. “Here you go, Mom. Merry Christmas!”
Sharon tore into the wrapping like a kid opening the biggest present under the tree. But when she pulled out my old, battered boots, her face twisted in horror.
“What on earth is this?” she screeched, holding them up like they were a dead animal.
Greg’s jaw hit the floor. “What the hell, Lauren? Where’s the microwave?”
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I sipped my coffee from my armchair, unbothered. “Oh, I decided to sell it and repurpose the money for something more practical.”
Greg turned red as he stood. “You embarrassed me in front of my mom! What were you thinking?”
I stood, too, and looked him straight in the eye. “I was thinking about how I’ve been walking around with frozen toes while you play Santa for someone who doesn’t even need a new microwave.” I turned to Sharon, who was still clutching the boots like they might attack her. “Maybe you should try walking a mile in my shoes. Literally.”
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Sharon sputtered. “I don’t know what kind of stunt you’re pulling, Lauren, but this is completely inappropriate. This is my gift from my son.”
“Well, your son is prioritizing your whims over his wife’s basic safety,” I shot back and crossed my arms.
The room was silent after my statement. Greg and I were stuck in a staring match, and neither of us was backing down. His face, though, showed he was furious.
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Sharon left shortly after mumbling a weak apology and telling us she’d see us tonight. When the door closed, my husband huffed and puffed, and left our house, too.
I breathed a huge sigh as my hands trembled. That had been rough and ugly. I also felt a little guilty for ruining their Christmas gift exchange, but it needed to happen.
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Also, I never sold her microwave. I just hid it beneath the kitchen sink. I planned to bring it to her gathering later. I just didn’t know how welcome I’d be.
***
You can imagine my shock when I got to Sharon’s house with the kids, and I saw Greg sitting on her sofa, looking guilty. I immediately realized word of the “boot incident” had spread when Doreen, Greg’s sister, ran to hug me.
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“Good for you, girl!” she whispered in my ear. “I couldn’t believe it when Mom told me, but I chastised her and then, him, especially when he arrived here alone.”
I hugged her back. “Does the rest of the family know?”
She pulled back and smiled brightly. “Mom took my words to heart and told everyone as soon as they arrived. They’ve all given my brother a piece of their minds. I’ve never laughed so hard in my life!” she added.
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I chuckled nervously and greeted everyone happily.
The rest of the dinner was fantastic, but Greg was quiet and avoided my eyes. This was especially true when his uncle made a joke about boots, causing the whole table to giggle.
By the end of the night, I gave Sharon her real gift from Greg. After hugging me, she apologized on her son’s behalf. She hoped I wouldn’t hold the incident against her because she was working on her materialistic ways.
An older woman holding a microwave | Source: Gemini
I forgave her, and she sent me and the kids home with most of the delicious leftovers.
Greg avoided me and drove himself home. I was disappointed he hadn’t learned his lesson as quickly as his mother.
A few days later, I sold some unused items online and combined that money with the cash I got from Christmas cards. I walked into a store a day after and bought myself a pair of beautiful, warm winter boots. They should last me at least three years.
A woman looking a new winter boots | Source: Gemini
When I arrived home hours later, Greg was standing in the middle of the living room. His face darkened when he saw my new boots.
“Where’d you get the money for those?”
I smiled and slipped off the boots, deliberately taking my time. “Oh, I decided how MY money is spent. Do you have a problem with that?”
Greg’s face twisted before he sighed. “Yes… well, no. It’s just that…” he trailed off.
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He leaned down and retrieved a gift box from under the tree. It hadn’t been there this morning. “I went out and bought this,” he shrugged. “It took me a while, and my pride got in the way, but I was wrong, baby. Can you forgive me?”
My husband handed me the gift box, and I took it, trying to hide my excitement. I knew what was inside: a pair of new winter boots, which were much more expensive than the ones I’d bought.
A pair of new winter boots | Source: Gemini
I chuckled and hugged Greg. Yes, I forgave him. And I think I fell in love with him more that winter. Because he started treating me like he did when we first fell in love.
Yet, I insisted on opening my own bank account and starting a side home business, so I could make my own money. I wasn’t going to stop being a stay-at-home mom or housewife, but a little more independence was just what the doctor ordered.
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And my husband was supportive. That’s all I wanted!
